Ever wonder why your best friend needs to talk something out ten times in ten different angles while you need silence, snacks, and a nap? Turns out, we all have a default ‘processing style’—aka the way we digest life’s curveballs. Take this quiz to find out yours.
✨ 5 Questions to determine your processing style:
Choose one answer per question. Be honest. No one’s judging—except maybe your inner child.
- When something heavy happens, your first instinct is to…
A. Write it all out in a long journal entry
B. Call someone and talk it out immediately
C. Go silent, then emerge hours later with a theory
D. Say “I’m fine” and clean the kitchen with rage - You’re in a fight with someone you love. You’re most likely to…
A. Overthink it alone for 3 days
B. Voice note your bestie for 7 minutes straight
C. Create a pros/cons list of everyone’s emotional behaviors
D. Watch a show, pretend it didn’t happen, then randomly cry two weeks later - Your friends would say your processing vibe is…
A. Deep and introspective
B. Open and verbal
C. Analytical and weirdly calm
D. Chaotic but always with clean floors - When you get advice, you usually…
A. Ignore it and figure it out on your own
B. Take it personally and analyze it for days
C. Dissect it like it’s a lab sample
D. Say “that’s so true” and then do the opposite - Your toxic trait in processing is…
A. Over-isolating
B. Oversharing before you’re ready
C. Thinking you’re above emotions
D. Burying it until it erupts at brunch
🧬 Results (Based on Mostly A/B/C/D answers):
Mostly A: The Internal Alchemist ⚗️
You transmute chaos into clarity—quietly. People think you’re “fine” when you’re actually processing galaxies. You need space, solitude, and a soundtrack to metabolize emotions.
Mostly B: The Verbal Spiral 🌀
You talk to understand. Words are your compass. You process out loud, often in real time, and need people who can ride the emotional rollercoaster without judgment.
Mostly C: The Rational Reframer 🖇️
You intellectualize to stabilize. Processing for you means creating frameworks, timelines, and theories to make sense of emotion. People think you’re chill—but it’s all spreadsheets inside.
Mostly D: The Delayed Eruption 🌋
You seem unbothered… until the dam breaks. You often bypass your feelings until your body says “nope.” Movement, creativity, and safe friendships help you unfreeze.
🔁 Share This With a Friend Who…
…journals like it’s a sport.
…voice notes like a podcast.
…processes pain via PowerPoint.
…forgets they were even upset… until they’re crying at Trader Joe’s.
Tag them. Text them. Process together.
Fun Tip: Based on what you get, input these questions and results to your favorite AI tool and ask it to map the processing styles of you and your friends. xx
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